 According to Carol Tuttle, The Child Whisperer, there are 4 true natures that can be identified and then parented to for support. The 4 natures are: Fun-Loving, Sensitive, Determined and Serious. Depending on your child's true dominant nature, you have many options as to how to approach helping a child who struggles with staying focused and on task. The following tips will assist you as you observe your child and learn how your child moves, spends time, and responds to life challenges.
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 I was driving into work one morning thinking about all the kids who were going BACK TO SCHOOL and I asked myself what comes up for me when I hear BACK TO SCHOOL. I have to say I was a bit surprised at what showed up. And how the awareness from this question has allowed me to connect to my current growth of being more of me.
The very words BACK TO SCHOOL imply returning to where I was at the time I left school. As I explored going back to school, what came up for me was the same feeling of anxiety that I felt much throughout my school years, as each new school year approached. Start the School Year with Ease - Easy as ABC Another school year is starting up again.
For some parents that comes with a sigh of relief as the kids will not be under foot as much, for other parents, it means they will be home schooling their kids and will require new structure and scheduling. Some kids will be having anxiety based on experiences from past school years. Whatever it is for your family, it will involve change; change of schedules, change of schools, teachers, friends and new curriculum. Here are some questions to consider about change:
Each person has their own way of dealing with new changes including children. As an empowered parent, being able to acknowledge your child's response to change will be key in helping them through it with more ease, whether they are nervous and anxious or so excited they can't sleep.  May-Hem: the time in May that takes over your life leading up to summer break with the kids.
Ever notice how many more demands there seem to be on your time in the month of May and on into the summer? It can feel like Mayhem, trying to juggle everything that is going on as well as added outdoor chores, children being home from school, vacations, special events and different schedules. I know I have been picking up on it. And even if you don't have a lot going on you may be picking up the overwhelm from those around you. If you are feeling added stress, be aware of the toll it may be taking on you, your body, and your relationships. Of course, we all have choices that we can make that can ease the stress, but all too often we become victims of our own choosing by taking on more than we really care to. We become victims of not wanting to be judged by others. And for parents, what do you want to teach your kids about making choices? Or maybe even better, what can you learn about making choices from your kids? Ever notice that kids, especially young ones, don’t worry about what other people will think, and will choose anyway? This changes as they grow older and receive the influence of adults. The reason for this message today, is to give you permission to stop, ask some questions about what you are choosing and why.
 Children of all ages are now using devices, not just phones but also iPads and Games. You may need to get more educated on what the concerns are by reading up on the different devices and the pros and cons associated with each one. When you know what your options are, and have talked with your child, you can choose from a variety of ways to help your child use these devices with the awareness that they can invite harm and unsafe situations.
Have you had a cyber-chat with your kids? As you talk with them, you may find it more empowering not to instill any fear or consequences, but rather to ask questions about what they know and what are they aware of. This is another opportunity to empower your child. It may also be a good place for parents to become more aware of the ways that they choose to use technology. What if using technology need not be a thing to fear but to be in awareness of just like everything else in life? In addition to being in the know about each type of device, you may want to use the following as a guide when talking to your child. It is recommended that you not just have this chat once, but continue to revisit it as you gain more knowledge. Simple Steps to Simple Parenting- Too Good to BE True?  Simple parenting? Not a reality right? After all parenting is the hardest job there is on this planet!
Are you making that so real for you that you can't experience more ease with parenting? I used to think that too and as I raised my 3 sons and then added in 2 step children, I became a master at making life as hard I could. I was a master at:
I had taken all I could take, and I made the demand that things change. Then I began asking questions and bit by bit my life and my relationship with my kids began to take on a different way of being. As I let go of the belief that being a parent was hard, more ease has become a reality. Who knew that using some simple pragmatic tools and techniques could have such a profound effect on my life? Enjoy a few minutes of receiving the Goodness of today with this meditation. My gift to you!
What if each day invites you to receive the goodness of the Day? Are you willing to receive that? What if what keeps one from receiving this Good Day is one's judgments, expectations, conclusions and fears? Each day is full of infinite possibilities to allow one to receive more from each day. What if having a different response to the happenings of the day allow one to receive more fully all that the day is offering? What if parents around the world were focusing more on receiving the goodness of the day? What difference would that make in their child's life? What would a child know about creating a good day from a parent's example? If your target is to be HAPPY, what can you choose that will give you more? The choice is yours to choose.  Or to be more specific, what is the purpose of my life?
As I moved into adulthood years ago, this question kept whispering in my ear. Surely I must have a purpose, I kept thinking. So I reflected: Growing up, I leaned on the adults in my life to show me about life’s purpose. I am not so sure that many of them really knew themselves. They all followed what was taught about being a good person, about contributing to the world, having compassion and going from day to day. I was keenly aware that there was a lot of emphasis on being a parent and raising kids to be good. For some people this all seemed to be enough. BUT for many others, myself included, something was missing, something so crucial that the question about the purpose of life kept surfacing. My quest of pursuing my life purpose by being good, doing what was “right”, helping others, and raising my kids to be good people, left me feeling empty. Naughty or Nice or Misunderstood?? As the holidays approach parents will notice that kids may begin to act out. There are many reasons why this may occur. In my own curiosity, I became aware of a phenomenon that we as parents and society create that may well be a major part of the reason why kids' behavior changes at this time of year.
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