Article submitted by Lillian Brooks
You didn't plan to have a child with a disability, but now that you've received the news, it's time to spring to action. Children with disabilities need more care than non-disabled children. In some cases, having a disabled child changes the entire shape of your life.
Navigating emotions when your child has a disability
It's normal to feel grief, anger, and guilt when discovering your child's disability. Don't beat yourself up for your response. Learning your child has a disability is a shock for most parents, and intense emotions are expected. However, it's important to let go of guilt and instead focus on being there for your child. If you need help working through your feelings, talk to a therapist and join a parent's group for support and advice as you start this unplanned journey.
As I write this heart tears are streaming down my face. Tears of joy and love for having had the opportunity to be loved by a child with such depth that it allowed me to love myself deeper. Tears of gratitude to have said, “Yes!” to bringing this illuminated being into my life. And yes, tears of sorrow that I didn’t have more time with this amazing being. These tears remind me of the value of loving myself in ways I never knew I could before and continue to put effort in having more self-love.
...On February 14, 1982, Valentines' Day, my son Ben was born. This bright-eyed, beaming little boy challenged me with his strong will and touched my heart with his tender caring that he offered to others. Little did I know the true significance of him choosing that day to enter my life. The gift of love that he has given me is more than I ever could have imagined possible. Nor did I know what it would take for me to fully receive that gift.
Mary shares her desire to create different possibilities for families and individuals who are looking to live a more conscious and aware lifestyle. BE YOU Parenting is for parents who want to BE all that they truly BE and to allow their kids the same privilege.