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 What if problems didn’t exist for you as a parent? Impossible you say? Would you be willing to discover how to eliminate problems and parent from a different space of possibility? What is a problem? This was the definition I found when I Googled dictionary meaning of “problem.” "a matter or situation regarded as unwelcome or harmful and needing to be dealt with and overcome."
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 Recently, I have heard parents telling their children to "use their words" rather than their bodies to communicate. It got me thinking about the words that we as parents use to communicate with our children. I wonder if parents stop and allow themselves to be on the receiving end of the words they use with their kids; would they continue to speak to their loved ones in such a way.
Often the way we talk to our kids is reflective of how our parents communicated with us as children. Our choice of words may be just how our parents talked to us or it may be an effort to find something different. In either case, it is worth taking the time to listen to ourselves and the messages we convey to our little darlings. Some words at first glance seem conducive to getting the message across, when in reality, depending on your child, they may take the message to a different meaning altogether. I have put together a few examples by which I think you will get an idea of how our words can be misleading to our kids.  Have you done your “Due Diligence” as a parent? How does being a diligent parent apply to raising today’s kids when so much change is going on?
Have we been misled about where we have applied diligence that hasn’t worked for us or for our kids and yet we keep trying in the name of diligence? Where does diligence enhance and empower the parent experience. Turn On Your Parent Power Do you ever feel that you are dominated by the demands of parenting, the expectations of what it means to be a parent, and the overwhelm of meeting the needs of your family?
It may feel as if your power source is depleted or even turned off, leaving you full of doubt, confusion and maybe even isolated. Your energy level is not what you would like it to be. Parent power isn’t about controlling your child or life’s situations. It is about being able to be empowered to weather any storm with confidence, joy, energy and assurance? Let’s explore what it takes to get your power turned on. What's Your - What If...? We all have our What if's that we use to project our thoughts, dreams and fears. It isn't uncommon for parents to focus more on the What If's that are generated out of fear or worry than to use the What Else is Possible-What if's.
Check in with the message you receive when someone goes to the worst case What if. It might sound like: What if you fail? What if no one likes what you do? What if they leave you? What if you get hurt or even die? How do you receive such comments? Do they contribute to being confident or do they bring you into doubt and fear?  How to Answer Your Own Parenting Questions Ever wonder how to handle a parenting problem? Whether it is about doing chores, sibling issues, preparing your child for the future or best practices for teaching your kids about life, many parents wonder if they are doing the right thing. This brings up parenting questions that are common in many family homes. While there are plenty of experts that can tell you what to do when situations arise, I prefer to empower my parent clients to access what they know. After all, who knows your child better than you do? What if it is time to access your intuitive connection with your child. |