Using questions for yourself as well as for your children can make a HUGE difference in being an effective, empowered parent. A question empowers, an answer dis-empowers. Asking a question will change the energy from the limitations you are creating with confusion, worry, and frustration to allow possible solutions to show up; creative ones that can be life changing. The key to asking questions is to allow the possibilities to show up without you trying to figure it all out. This is the part that becomes easy. It is time to stop analyzing, comparing and forcing a decision or answer.
It is worth the time to practice using these questions on ourselves as well as with our children and other people we connect with. Notice the shifts of energy that come up when you ask these types of questions.
Here are some examples of questions that you can ask yourself as situations arise:
Not My Plan-Receiving Your Child’s Gift
I recently read the Upworthy story of Eva, The Superhero Who Never Lived. This story will tug at your heartstrings as you witness the courage and the willingness of her parents to receive the gift that their daughter brought forth through her short life existence in this lifetime.
Not My Plan- Even when these parents received the news that their daughter wouldn’t live once she was delivered, they chose to receive her. They, being the parents that they are, wanted to make the most out of her short presence and make it a gift that others would receive as well. And even in that, they discovered they weren’t in control, as they discovered that
Eva had other plans.
She draws her last breath before birth, eliminating the opportunity for her parents and family to be with her for even a few brief seconds. It was her parents’ wish that her organs be donated to others so that her life could live on through others and her parents could bear witness to these lives.
Eva had other plans.
“The mission was simple: get Eva to full term, welcome her into this world to die, and let her give the gift of life to some other hurting family.”
Is Your Child a "Know it All"?
I recently read an article in a local paper about middle school kids teaming up to create some new lunch possibilities. The challenge was to come up with a dish that would appeal to kids at a cost of about $1.20 per serving. The meal needed to be easy to mass produce and meet nutritional guidelines. True to the nature of kids who want to eat, the three teams competing for $500 for their school plus the fun of an “Iron Chef” cooking challenge came up with a variety of possibilities.
As I was reading this article, I was congratulating the adults who were willing to have the kids participate in creating food options that work and taste good for them. These adults acknowledged that the kids had the capacity to know what to do. They were in allowance of giving them the space to work it out for themselves.
What would happen if we could trust kids to know what they know to contribute to the changes that our world needs?
What would happen if adults would trust kids of any age to come up with possibilities that create more ease?
What if we could be in allowance of any idea shared by a child? *
Another school year is starting up again.
For some parents that comes with a sigh of relief as the kids will not be under foot as much, for other parents, it means they will be home schooling their kids and will require new structure and scheduling. Some kids will be having anxiety based on experiences from past school years. Whatever it is for your family, it will involve change; change of schedules, change of schools, teachers, friends and new curriculum.
Here are some questions to consider about change:
How does your child handle change? Does your child get excited and look forward to the new experience? Does your child feel nervous and anxious?
Each person has their own way of dealing with new changes including children. As an empowered parent, being able to acknowledge your child's response to change will be key in helping them through it with more ease, whether they are nervous and anxious or so excited they can't sleep.
Mary shares her desire to create different possibilities for families and individuals who are looking to live a more conscious and aware lifestyle. BE YOU Parenting is for parents who want to BE all that they truly BE and to allow their kids the same privilege.