What we believe parenting has to be affects how we experience it. If you believe that parenting is hard and can't be full of fun and excitement, then what you will experience is difficulty and challenges that feel overly hard to you. I will be the first to admit that parenting presents challenges. It's all about how we handle those challenges.
We must look beyond what we think has to be or has always been so that we are able to create something beyond that- something that is unknown or that we haven't experienced yet.
For example: Everyday your 3 year old wants to hold you up getting out the door, wanting to play just a while longer. Everyday, you feel the frustration and anger at having to yell, push, make them hurry up so that you won't be late. And everyday you dread the moment when you have to tell your child that it is time to go, knowing that there will be resistance.
As you put on your magician hat and pull out your magic wand, you realize that you need to do something completely different. You also have to be someone completely different- you have to let go of the expectations that you have about how this has been and what it needs to be. You need to let go of your "dread" energy and put on your anticipation to infinite possibilities energy. When you can be willing to let this transform into something beyond what you think it is, you will be amazed at what can occur.
You do this, beforehand, expanding the energy around you, inviting in the energy of peace and calm, allowance and joy. You let go of any fear, judgment, conclusion you have about what it means to need to get out the door at a certain time (this is about letting go of the forceful energy that kids often resist, it isn't about the time element). As you let go of this, you step into asking, "What can I be and do to invite my child to come and join me as we leave?" Your tone, your energy and your words will take on a different way of connecting to your child that will invite them to listen and want to join you as you leave. Poof! Like magic!
Disclaimer: Like all magicians, this will take practice, and it will take different tries, until you reach the magical way to be with your child that works with ease. Don't give up! You and your child are much more worth the effort than the magician who is out to amaze an audience. You are creating a greater connection with yourself and your child. You are changing your beliefs, your old mindsets about what it is that you have made important. These are valuable transformations for both you and your child.
When you are willing to be the magical parent, you will also be able to embrace more joyful moments with your child. You will be able to let go of energy draining emotions that suck you of your own vitality and presence. Look for those areas in your relationship with your child that you would like to be more magical. Pick up your wand and let the magic begin!
Want more tricks for being a magical parent? Take a listen to this podcast of Being a Magical Parent and learn more or tune into your favorite podcast station and search BE YOU PARENTING.