Re-programming is needed when we are using old programs to create new results. When a parent keeps trying to do the same thing hoping that someday they will get the result that they want from their kids, and that day just never seems to come, re-programming is needed. Trying to use old programming only brings more frustration and confusion for both parent and child. Come along as we explore ways to re-program parent skills and mindsets that benefit both child and adult.
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Courage- the mental and moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear or difficulty- comes from the latin root- heart. Thank you Miriam Webster for that definition.
Most parents probably could tell you that being a parent takes courage. It is an adventure full of unknowns, and in which both parent and child will persevere, will face dangers- real or imagined and of course be faced with difficulties.
As I reflected on my own parenting courage with each of my children, I also became aware of some different kinds of courage that I needed to be willing to be so that I can be more empowered to be me and to empower my kids to be all that they can be. I thought it would be interesting to list some of these "courage challenges" here and see if you identify with any of them.
If you have been asking, but not receiving, what might that be about?
Ask and you shall receive.
It is one of the key elements in manifesting the life that makes life worth living!
It has become my daily practice to fill my day with asking questions that allow my life to expand and not contract.
When I ask questions like- "What in the world was I thinking?" or " What's wrong with me that I would do that?" my world contracts into a tight space of judgment. And I can't receive anything from that space, except more judgment. And I don't know about you, but more judgment is not on my "ask" list.
Keep the Joy in Summer
We are now about halfway through the summer. How are you managing having the kids around more? Do you have mixed feelings about loving your kids and loving time without them? You are not alone and in fact, parenting isn’t about being with your kids 24/7. The transition to summer with kids at home can be difficult for both kids and parents. Most kids also like to have time when mom and dad aren’t around too. They like their independence. Here are a few tips that can create more ease during the summertime as well as other times that are transitions.
It is easy to become so focused on the needs of everyday life when raising kids, that a parent can forget to take care of oneself. And yet, if a parent is to be effective in caring and nurturing a child, it is vital that the parent make sure to do their own self-care.
When you take the effort to give yourself the care you need you receive many benefits:
For more tips about the value of self and care and getting comfortable with your self-care listen to the replay of Vital Care for Parents on the Be You Parenting Radio show.
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Parents find themselves in all kinds of situations that can bring on exasperation, leaving them feeling helpless and even frustrated and angry:
This parent is running late and needs to get himself and his kids out the door, when suddenly the 4-year-old daughter complains of a stomachache and loses her breakfast all over the doorway. What’s a parent to do?
Another parent is ready to finally call it a day and get some much-needed sleep and her 10-year-old son announces that he has a science project due the next day and hasn’t started. What’s a parent to do?
And this parent has finally worked out a schedule for co-parenting with her child’s father and then finds out that he has been asked to go out of town for his job on the times that he was going to take them, leaving the child without any day care. What’s a parent to do?
There are endless scenarios that throw parents into a fit of panic for things that occur that weren’t planned for.
I was interviewed to talk about self care and how it relates to parenting. I see a lot of parents, myself included who consistently put everything and everyone else before taking care of themselves. I have learned through my own trials that this doesn't really work out the best for me or those I love and care about.
In this interview we touched on what is self care. It isn't just that you eat right, get exercise and occasionally take some me time, although those things are part of self care. There is also the self care we do when we stop judging ourselves. Do you know of any higher form of abuse than Self-Judgment?
I want to share with you how my judgments affected my parenting. I wanted so much to be the perfect parent and to do right by my kids.
I am amazed at the things parents, teachers, and other adults who are caring for children will say to kids. I will admit that after reflection, I have said some dis-empowering things to kids. If one could just hear what is said and then be aware of the effect it has on the receiver, they might actually choose to say something else or nothing at all.
Recently a parent dropped their child off for class and told them to “work hard.” These words imply that the child needs to work hard in order to achieve.
Do you get frazzled because there isn’t enough time to do everything that being a parent asks of you, including time for yourself?
Does time become an issue that adds more stress to your day?
What if you could learn how to make time your friend and discover ways you can parent without the added stress of time?
Time flies, Time heals all wounds, Time stopping, wasting time, use your time wisely, time limits, Father Time, just enough time, spending time, measure time, time changes things, I don’t have time, I have too much time, Where did the time go? Take your time, Two at a time, Manage your time... and so it goes
These are all interesting concepts and sayings about time. Some of which we believe to be true and others not so much.
I like this quote from the book, The Time Keeper By Mitch Albom:
Mary Dravis-Parrish, CBF, CFMW
Mary shares her desire to create different possibilities for families and individuals who are looking to live a more conscious and aware lifestyle. BE YOU Parenting is for parents who want to BE all that they truly BE and to allow their kids the same privilege.