Before we talk about eliminating judgment from your life, perhaps we should explore why you would want to eliminate judgment. After all, haven't we all been taught that one way we decide what is right or wrong is to judge? Are we teaching our children the value of judgment?
My question is then, how is that working for you, for us, for our children, for our planet?
What is beyond judging and being judged? If you ask most people what they fear most in life and what stops them from choosing for themselves, they will tell you that they fear being judged. So, how valuable is judgment? Do we really need to judge others or ourselves.
Have you ever been with someone who didn't judge you? Someone who allowed you to be who you are, without trying to change you into something else? Many people struggle to find someone in their life that doesn't judge them.
Imagine an infant and notice the energy that exists between the two of you. No judgment. Just gratitude for the exchange of receiving each other without any judgment. Children don't come into this world judging, they are taught it. And when we teach our kids to judge, we also teach them to fear being judged, because it highlights wrongness.
What about that pet you have that is always happy to see you now matter what; that doesn't judge you.
And of course, there is nature. Sitting under a tree, knowing that the tree isn't interested in judging you, nor does it care if you judge it.
What does this non-judgment, this space of allowance create for you- More or Less of Being you? More or less joy, happiness and desire for living?
"Judgment is not powerful. Judgment is what you use to try and control people.” -Gary Douglas, Founder of Access Consciousness
Where does this get us, trying to control others, which is pointless and only breeds contempt. People want to be heard and seen for who they are, not judged. And that doesn't mean that you agree with everyone, you just stop judging them for their choices, their points of view and how they are showing up in the world.
"... when you judge yourself or anything else, you lose the sense of adventure, the sense of possibility. Judging takes that joy out of living. Basically, whatever you judge kills any gratitude or peace that would otherwise be available there." - Dr. Dain Heer
And if we didn't judge, what would we do instead? Would having more allowance for others, for ourselves make a greater impact on how we live? An easy way to answer that is to ask what would you prefer- to be judged or be honored through allowance of who you be?
And if now you get that being in judgment is destroying your life, then what can you do to eliminate it, especially when it has been so ingrained in each of us as a vital part of existing?
One of the greatest tools we have for eliminating judgment from our life is to be Gratitude. You cannot be in gratitude and judgment at the same time. If you are truly grateful, and connecting to the energy of gratitude through receiving and giving, you can't be in judgment. Not possible.
Is this the time for you to build up your gratitude muscle? Is it time to go deeper into what you are truly grateful for and how your life is better for it? What if you connected more fully on being grateful for those things you keep judging? The essence of gratitude is love, love is gratitude. When you express gratitude, you expressing your love, your joy and your appreciation of life and living. No judgment there!
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