I don't know about you but it has been a week of mixed emotions for me.
One the one hand, I was able to witness some amazing growth with clients as well as family members as they stepped into being more empowered. Pure magic! The emotional response here is one of elation and joy!
At the same time, I carry this space of grief as I mark the milestone of 20 years...
...since my son took his life and brought back bittersweet memories.
As I reflected on this, I was drawn to the expression so often used with Charlie Brown -"Good Grief!" While this expression is used as an exclamation expressing surprise, alarm, dismay, or some other, usually negative emotion, I examined it further.
One question that kept coming up-
Why use a positive word ----> Good----> used with a negative emotion - Grief?
This led to another question ---> Is grief bad? That would be the assumption, as it is associated with experiences and events that deal with loss and sadness.
After 20 years of being on this grief train, I would not describe grief as bad, but as a response of being with the emotional pain that comes from caring and loving one another.
So, if grief isn't bad, does that mean that it has an element of goodness embedded within it? I believe so. If not only to remind us of our capacity to love and care for one another, which reminds us that we are human. Going further, the longer I have traveled on this grief journey, I have found some golden nuggets:
We all have our own grief. It isn't about comparing whose grief is worse than another's. Grief becomes part of our journey that we take with us, and if we allow, those emotions that flow from the loss we feel, can give us insight to learning more about ourselves, our relationships, our desires and the courage to go forward.
My son died on March 4th, leaving me with the message to go FORTH, don't give up, as difficult as it may be, keep going. In doing so, I have reaped tremendous joys and achievements that I would not have had. In that marching forward we all carry the pain of those we miss, whether people we love or dreams that didn't come true.
I extend to you the gift to live now and allow any grief you carry to be your strength.
Mary shares her desire to create different possibilities for families and individuals who are looking to live a more conscious and aware lifestyle. BE YOU Parenting is for parents who want to BE all that they truly BE and to allow their kids the same privilege.