While I was working on increasing my flexibility this week, I ran into a limitation that shows up more often than I would like.
that I use to avoid being all I can be.
It is helpful for us to know the difference between our excuses and the truth. I have become a master at convincing myself that my excuse is justified and even honorable, when in fact it is an avoidance and often is hiding a fear that can be addressed and overcome.
Here's an example from my past that may illustrate what I mean about the truth versus excuse that limits.
Several years ago, I was asked to attend a weekend retreat in support of a loved one. I declined using my children as an excuse that I couldn't leave them and get away to attend. I used my kids to justify my choice. If I had asked myself some questions about my choice-
While I don't spend energy in feeling guilt or regret for this choice, I do know that I can learn from the process and how I made use of excuses. It wasn't true that my kids couldn't be cared for.
Are you a master at creating excuses that are not true? Here are some that I have used in the past:
Now that I have identified these excuses as limitations that keep me from being my best, I can ask questions and know that I can choose differently. In addition to the above questions, I also ask, "Is this true?" that I don't have time? Someone else will/won't care? OR whatever my excuse is.
Sometimes when we ask questions, we may still feel confused due to our masterful justifications as to what is really true. This week's tool will help you in this area.
Regardless of what you have been focusing on in your evolution journey, I can bet you have encountered an excuse or two that has been a block keeping you from progress. I hope this week's focus on EXCUSES vs TRUTH gives you some added insights.
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