The Gift of Asking for Help

Oh my! am I in a state of awe of how wonderfully the Universe works when I am willing to see the changes that will make my life better!

I was reviewing the past Empowerment Insights and I saw how beautifully the dots are being connected to bring me more awareness about how I can truly love myself more and how these added insights (even if they aren't new) show up with more clarity and make more sense to me than ever before.

I am also amazed at the flow and ease from which this all occurs, just by my own willingness and desire to be all of ME. 

This week was no different...

After a week of focusing on not making excuses, I learned some interesting things that bring forth this week's insight. 

Making excuses is one of the ways that I validate the belief. "I am not worthy to have/be/do..." So I make an excuse so that I don't receive that which I am not worthy of. UGH!  (I share another insight I received in the follow up section below). 

I know this unworthiness belief is getting old and yet, here is another sign that I still have some of it sticking to me. 

This led me to my next insight which is also connected to unworthiness-
​Asking for help.

This insight weaves a complex web so cleverly disguised that it would make me think that the reason I don't ask for help is because

I am so dependent, so strong, so capable. 

So I asked, "Is that true? Do I really believe that about myself when it comes to seeking assistance?"

And the answer is - Absolutely NOT!

This is not to say that I don't have strength, can't be dependent or capable, but that it has nothing to do with asking for help. 

Here's the kicker (almost embarrassed to share this)-

For me asking for help, is more that I don't truly feel worthy of receiving someone's help. And while there is an element of feeling weak and less than by asking for help (afterall, it is better to give than to receive) I have to be honest in acknowledging that I do have a lack of self-worth attached to asking for help. 

Great! Now that I have acknowledged it what do I do with that?
Ask more questions and make some new choices. (see the tools below)

I know from working with clients that I am not the only one out there that struggles with asking for help. I even dedicated a chapter to it for parents in my book. 

If you know you resist asking for help, I wonder what the true reason might be. What would you discover if you were willing to ask? 

Believing in you!

Empowerment Tool

For Parents

From whence can help come? I had forgotten who all I could ask for help. I was reminded that not only can I ask those who are physically here but also I can always turn to my spirit team- aka- Spirit Guides or Angels. I remembered a tip, just tell them what you need and be willing to receive their help.

So I asked, "Will you help me get up earlier so that I can get in my morning practices?" And guess what? Like an alarm clock, I began waking up at 6 am - even before the sun is up.

​Where it had been so difficult before, now it was easier and I just wonder, how much things are easier when you have a team working for you. So now I readily turn to them to help me in all kinds of situations: 

• Need an idea for dinner- ask them.
• Need support working with a client- ask them,
• Need some emotional support- ask them
• Need to find the strength to persevere - ask them 

And I believe they love being called upon. 
In this podcast Kids, Ghosts and Parents my guest Deepa Ramaraj shares some interesting insights about spirit beings and kids and parents. 

And to help me with my sticky belief about being unworthy I will use this mantra from Louise Hay. 

Parents may be unaware of what their kids are learning about asking for help from watching us. Do they see that we have some limiting beliefs about asking for help. Do we project that it may be a sign of weakness? OR that we aren't worthy of receiving help? 

Kids do learn these aspects from adults and they may or may not adopt those belief. But you can see the signs when your child has trouble asking a teacher for help. Or they resist ever acknowledging that they can't do something themselves and would rather give up.

​They may be think that asking for help means that there is something wrong with them. They may have been made fun of for asking for help. 

Encouraging your child to know that help is always available and that to receive help is a strength not a weakness. It promotes increased learning and allows us to receive from others. It promotes a greater sense of community. 

One way you can encourage your child to be willing to ask for help is for you to ask them for help. When you do, be willing to accept their help in the way that they can give it. In other words, allow their help to be good enough and not need to be redone (at least not so that they know it). 

What if we all acknowledged the value of giving and receiving as equally important and valuable?

What if you could share with your kids that they can also ask Angels or Guiding Spirits to help them. In this podcast Kids, Ghosts and Parents my guest Deepa Ramaraj shares some interesting insights about spirit beings and kids and parents.