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What's a Parent to Do?

6/17/2019

Parents find themselves in all kinds of situations that can bring on exasperation, leaving them feeling helpless and even frustrated and angry:

This parent is running late and needs to get himself and his kids out the door, when suddenly the 4-year-old daughter complains of a stomachache and loses her breakfast all over the doorway. What’s a parent to do?

Another parent is ready to finally call it a day and get some much-needed sleep and her 10-year-old son announces that he has a science project due the next day and hasn’t started. What’s a parent to do?

And this parent has finally worked out a schedule for co-parenting with her child’s father and then finds out that he has been asked to go out of town for his job on the times that he was going to take them, leaving the child without any day care. What’s a parent to do?
There are endless scenarios that throw parents into a fit of panic for things that occur that weren’t planned for.

BE You and Parent Too

6/11/2019

I was interviewed to talk about self care and how it relates to parenting. I see a lot of parents, myself included who consistently put everything and everyone else before taking care of themselves. I have learned through my own trials that this doesn't really work out the best for me or those I love and care about.

In this interview we touched on what is self care. It isn't just that you eat right, get exercise and occasionally take some me time, although those things are part of self care. There is also the self care we do when we stop judging ourselves. Do you know of any higher form of abuse than Self-Judgment?

I want to share with you how my judgments affected my parenting. I wanted so much to be the perfect parent and to do right by my kids.

How Words Affect Our Children

6/3/2019

I am amazed at the things parents, teachers, and other adults who are caring for children will say to kids. I will admit that after reflection, I have said some dis-empowering things to kids. If one could just hear what is said and then be aware of the effect it has on the receiver, they might actually choose to say something else or nothing at all.

Recently a parent dropped their child off for class and told them to “work hard.” These words imply that the child needs to work hard in order to achieve.

Make Time Your Friend

5/14/2019

Do you get frazzled because there isn’t enough time to do everything that being a parent asks of you, including time for yourself?

Does time become an issue that adds more stress to your day?

What if you could learn how to make time your friend and discover ways you can parent without the added stress of time?

Time flies, Time heals all wounds, Time stopping, wasting time, use your time wisely, time limits, Father Time, just enough time, spending time, measure time, time changes things, I don’t have time, I have too much time, Where did the time go? Take your time, Two at a time, Manage your time... and so it goes

These are all interesting concepts and sayings about time. Some of which we believe to be true and others not so much.

I like this quote from the book, The Time Keeper By Mitch Albom:

First Aid for Families

5/13/2019

Many families prepare for minor injuries by having a first aid kit on hand. But what about a first aid kit that will address those emotional ow-ies that show up? Like when your child can’t sleep because they are anxious, or you are losing sleep because you are worried about your child. Emotional ow-ies, like sadness, anger, guilt, shame, fear, and anxiety can often be handled first at home if you have an emotional first aid kit full of simple and practical tools.

Problem Free Parenting

4/29/2019

What if problems didn’t exist for you as a parent? Impossible you say? Would you be willing to discover how to eliminate problems and parent from a different space of possibility?

What is a problem? This was the definition I found when I Googled dictionary meaning of “problem.”
"a matter or situation regarded as unwelcome or harmful and needing to be dealt with and overcome."

Using Your Words-To Empower Children

4/29/2019

Recently, I have heard parents telling their children to "use their words" rather than their bodies to communicate. It got me thinking about the words that we as parents use to communicate with our children. I wonder if parents stop and allow themselves to be on the receiving end of the words they use with their kids; would they continue to speak to their loved ones in such a way.

Often the way we talk to our kids is reflective of how our parents communicated with us as children. Our choice of words may be just how our parents talked to us or it may be an effort to find something different. In either case, it is worth taking the time to listen to ourselves and the messages we convey to our little darlings. Some words at first glance seem conducive to getting the message across, when in reality, depending on your child, they may take the message to a different meaning altogether.

I have put together a few examples by which I think you will get an idea of how our words can be misleading to our kids.

The Diligent Parent

4/22/2019

Have you done your “Due Diligence” as a parent? How does being a diligent parent apply to raising today’s kids when so much change is going on?

Have we been misled about where we have applied diligence that hasn’t worked for us or for our kids and yet we keep trying in the name of diligence? Where does diligence enhance and empower the parent experience.

Turn On Your Parent Power

4/15/2019

Turn On Your Parent Power

Do you ever feel that you are dominated by the demands of parenting, the expectations of what it means to be a parent, and the overwhelm of meeting the needs of your family?
It may feel as if your power source is depleted or even turned off, leaving you full of doubt, confusion and maybe even isolated. Your energy level is not what you would like it to be. Parent power isn’t about controlling your child or life’s situations. It is about being able to be empowered to weather any storm with confidence, joy, energy and assurance?

Let’s explore what it takes to get your power turned on.

What's Your What if...?

4/8/2019

What's Your - What If...?

We all have our What if's that we use to project our thoughts, dreams and fears. It isn't uncommon for parents to focus more on the What If's that are generated out of fear or worry than to use the What Else is Possible-What if's.

Check in with the message you receive when someone goes to the worst case What if. It might sound like: What if you fail? What if no one likes what you do? What if they leave you? What if you get hurt or even die?

How do you receive such comments? Do they contribute to being confident or do they bring you into doubt and fear?

Mary Dravis-Parrish, CBF, CFMW

Mary shares her desire to create different possibilities for families and individuals who are looking to live a more conscious and aware lifestyle. BE YOU Parenting is for parents who want to BE all that they truly BE and to allow their kids the same privilege.

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